Be a Grounding Rod!


No matter why clients come to me for energy healing, the biggest problem I usually see is that they are not well grounded. I often spend a good part of a session just getting their energy grounded, because this is the one thing that will aid their healing the most.

If someone is not grounded, they are not fully in their body. They are also not in present time. No one can function well and be healthy and happy without being present. Our optimal state is to be in our bodies, so what throws people out? It is traumatic events, either emotional or physical, that cause this. Who wants to be in pain? It is human nature to move away from it. So when there is pain and trauma, we pop out of the body with a big chunk of our consciousness, and then sometimes never get back in fully. This can be caused by accidents, losses, emotional or physical abuse, shocking news, or serious illnesses.

Some people are thrown out at a young age and live that way the rest of their lives. By the time they come to me, this has become their normal way of being, and they wonder why they are stressed and not coping well with day-to-day challenges.Earth2

Another harmful result of not being fully present is that there is room for other beings to take residence in or around your body. These opportunistic entities will only make things worse. They magnify negative thoughts and harmful emotions, creating more problems in your life. Coming back into possession of your body and claiming your energy will give them the eviction notice and is the ticket back to health and wholeness.

Many people can reach high states of consciousness in meditation, but because they are not grounded, this activity does not progress their spiritual evolution. Those high frequency energies need to be brought into the physical world and into all areas of our lives to be integrated and help us evolve. We are bridges between spirit and matter! Our job as human beings is to bring spiritual energies into the physical world, and that means into our bodies, and all areas of our lives.

The way to start is with the grounding cord. This is seen psychically as a cord of energy that is attached to the body right where we sit, and it ideally extends downward into the Earth. It is common for it to be non-existent, shallow, disconnected, or even straying off to the side. When I correct this energetically, I put it all the way down into the middle of the Earth, anchoring it well.

You can ground yourself with intent without being able to see the cord. Just intend that the cord is well attached at the top and push it down as deep as you can imagine. If you haven’t been grounded for a long time, you may need to visualize or intend this several times a day at first. But if you do just that, after a while it will stay for longer and longer.

This is our lifeline. This connection gives us stability, nourishment, and security. Everyone needs this!

Once you have your Earth connection working, allow the energy from deep in the core to come up into your system. Let it bathe and heal resistance or pain you have stored from your past as it slowly flows upward through your body, until it goes out the top of your head. If you are familiar with chakras, pause the energy at each one, seeing each chakra grow brighter and more beautiful. Pay special attention to the root chakra, at the base of the spine, where the energy first comes in.

Once your cord is healed, and more energy can flow upward, the body looks more inviting to the soul. You will have more of your essence in the here and now.

Our beautiful Earth has energy that is perfect for human beings in all ways, from the body to the soul. And it is given freely, so take advantage of it!


So You Want to Be with Your Twin Flame?

Many people have romanticized the notion of being with pink water lilliestheir twin flame—the perfect mate, the other half. I believe this comes from a deep soul yearning to find someone who will share the spiritual journey and connect at deeper levels than the usual physical and emotional areas in relationships. This desire also comes from fairy tales in our culture that tell of finding the perfect mate and then living happily ever after.

The twin flame IS the ideal mate! This is true. But what many people do not understand is that the twin is the ideal mate for the SOUL, not for the personality, ego, or other human aspects. The twin will only be compatible, or appropriate as a mate in physical life, when the soul has been fully engaged in life.

The spiritual path is all about healing and purifying the three lower bodies—physical, emotional and mental—so more Light can be brought in, and the spirit can be freed. The soul gradually becomes more engaged as the personality relinquishes control and most of the pain from our past is healed. This generally takes hundreds of lifetimes of active self-healing. Only when the purification is almost finished will the soul be active in all areas of life.

Until then, it is best that the twin keep his or her distance because as long as the ego is in control, there will be incompatibility no matter how much we want this union! Fortunately, this is taken care of by Divine Will.

While we humans are evolving, the RIGHT MATE is the one who will help us evolve the most, showing us where we need to heal next. Sometimes this help comes in the form of triggering our pain, or seemingly holding us back for a while. Soulmates and other companions are very good at helping us by pushing us along. In each relationship, the highest goal is to learn all that can be learned.

Many people still think that if they only can find the right person, this person will love them as they are, and everything will be ideal, like in the movies. But every unresolved issue you have in one relationship will still be there in the next one, no matter who the person is. This is why it is so important to heal yourself and make sure you learn all lessons within each relationship you have.

If you do meet your twin flame when you still have much to heal, it is not likely that you will stay together for long because of the intensity of this soul connection and its need for purity. It can stimulate both of your growth, and this is probably why Divine Will occasionally causes this. If you can accept that it is a brief encounter by design, there can be big benefits to your spiritual growth. If you can’t accept this, it can cause much suffering.

It is good to remember that once we have a connection with someone at the soul level, whether the twin or a soulmate, that connection does not go away. You will never lose it, whether you are together physically or not. From the perspective of the soul, there is no hurry. When the time is right you will be together, if not in this lifetime then in the next, or between lives. It is the personality that feels need or urgency, not the soul.

If we take full advantage of all relationships that come our way, treating them like arenas in which to heal and purify our lower bodies, we will progress fast. Each one takes us closer to the most ideal mate, the twin flame, when our journey of incarnations on Earth is almost finished and the soul is ready.

We Are Supposed to Make Mistakes!

In this school of life, we human beings are constantly striving toward perfecting ourselves. That is the spiritual path, one of healing and purification. As we gather more and more experience, through many incarnations, we tend to learn right from wrong. Unfortunately, many of these lessons are learned the hard way, by doing the wrong thing and then dealing with the consequences. Or, as my dad used to say, “You have to pay the Piper.”

So speaking of consequences, what is karma, really? Some people think of it as punishment, like a higher-level justice system imposed on humans to make them pay for their transgressions and harmful acts. But I believe that it is something we agree to at the soul level, rather than something imposed on us.

Yes, there is a Karmic Board, a group of Beings of Light who are well-known among those of us who can communicate with them. But even though their job is to assign karmic backlash, I sense these beings as compassionate and loving—not punishing. They work with your soul to find the best course of action so you will learn lessons you really DO want to learn. Of course, you may not remember that you wanted to learn these lessons when faced with challenges and limitations in life, but this is where faith comes in.

What religions call sins, I call mistakes. Without making mistakes we would never learn what this Earth school has to teach. There is nothing as effective as screwing up big-time then feeling bad about it, to teach us what not to do. When we feel bad, we punish ourselves. In fact, we tend to give ourselves much worse consequences than the Karmic Board would!

I first realized this with an incident when my two sons were young. When we were living in some suburbs of San Diego, my six-year-old son forgot to put his bike in the garage, leaving it out in the yard overnight. Fortunately, it was still there in the morning. Rather than imposing a punishment for this, I asked him what he thought was a fair action to prevent it from happening again. He was silent for a few seconds as he considered it, then he said he should not be allowed to ride his bike for a month. This was far more severe than anything I would have imposed! I thanked him but gave a lighter sentence. He never left it out again.

With hundreds of clients I have seen the same pattern, on a longer time scale. They are so hard on themselves! One mistake and they think they are terrible people, sometimes punishing themselves for many lifetimes! This can cause deep feelings of unworthiness and low self-esteem which may stem from hundreds of years ago. Sometimes the chosen punishment is far greater than needed, and can be the very thing that is holding them back.

We can all benefit from recognizing that we are supposed to make mistakes while living as human beings in this Earth school. As long as we have learned the lessons so we won’t repeat the mistakes, we can forgive ourselves and move forward much more quickly. Time to stop beating themselves up!