Over the years, I have received thousands of letters from people wanting to know if a particular person is their twin flame. They usually describe the intensity of the attraction, the stirring of spiritual awakenings, and sometimes an opening of psychic senses. All these experiences prompt them to do some kind of research online, leading to the concept of twin flames.
By far most of these are not twin flames. They are soulmates or other people with whom there is a strong soul contract. Sometimes they come along to spark a spiritual awakening, or to help you make some big changes in your life. These important encounters are gold! Because of the contracts, these connections generate very intense feelings and mystical experiences to get your attention, and it may seem like it is the forever kind of love.
But often, after they have given you the boost you needed, the person is no longer needed in your life. The soul contract is finished. If you have, in the process, attached to the idea that they are your twin and no one else will do, this can be extremely painful, as well as then limiting you from finding the next relationship that will help you along your path of evolution.
There are several ways I can tell if two people are twin flames. When I look at two people psychically, the first thing I look for is where their energetic connection is the strongest. If that is at the heart, they are usually soulmates or soul family who have come together to help each other heal. If it is between lower chakras, there is karma to disperse or big lessons to learn, and that is what drew them together. Mental or telepathic connections I see between the third eyes or throats, which can also be a sign of a shared mission or project. But if I see that the strongest connection is above the head at the soul level, this indicates either a soulmate or twin flame.
If this soul connection is present, I can tell if the couple are twins or not by looking at the unresolved energy or karma between them. If I see significant unfinished business, a number of lifetimes together, and other indications of a past together on Earth, this is a soulmate. If it looks clear between them, they are twin flames.
Soulmates and other soul family are our companions along the way as we incarnate over and over in different kinds of relationships, making mistakes and helping each other with life experiences and lessons.
Twins, on the other hand, don’t generally incarnate together while they are both creating karma. They tend to gather experience apart. But all the time they are very connected at the soul level, so even though they don’t have past lives together, they feel like they have known each other forever. And they have, just at a non-physical level.
Twins and some soulmates will feel like they were meant for each other, but the intensity of the soul-to-soul connection of twins is unsurpassed. This cannot be maintained in Earthly life until both people are very evolved and healed. This is why few twins actually come together physically.
So the quickest way to attract your twin flame is to heal yourself. When the timing is right, he or she will find you.